We’d been sitting on the plane parked at a departure gate at Changi Singapore airport for over an hour. The air conditioning was having a tough time staving off Singapore’s sizzling heat and with no explanation on the cause of the lengthy delay, all of us were getting pretty grumpy.
Then an announcement:
“Ladies and Gentlemen, this is your captain speaking. I want to apologize for the delay today, which is not as a result of air traffic delays or any kind of maintenance issue. The delay is entirely my fault. I missed the crew bus from the hotel this morning and I alone am to blame. I’m truly sorry – I’ll do my best to make up some time en-route.”
My jaw dropped. And apparently, so did a few others as applause started to ripple through the aircraft.
Shocking! Someone had told the truth!
Far from being greeted with anger, the emotional temperature in the cabin dropped instantly. While the problem still existed, most identified with what was a genuine, human mistake – the guy missed the bus – no different from any of us showing up late for a meeting for one reason or another.
The problem wasn’t disguised as something it wasn’t. It wasn’t a yeah, right ‘his dog ate his glasses…’ laughable attempt at the truth. It was the unvarnished truth. And it went over well.
So if the truth can go over well, why are so many marketers and agencies so uncomfortable with telling it like it is? And if you’re thinking ‘no, not us’ – try one of these:
I don’t agree
You’re in a meeting listening to your boss, your client, your agency – whoever – and you know deep down their point of view or idea is wrong. Is it because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings? Or could it be you’re afraid your client or your boss won’t appreciate your point of view?
We screwed up
Admitting you screwed up can be difficult. Of course there can be fall-out from admitting a mistake – but the generally speaking it’s easier to deal with a genuine mistake than a convoluted version of the truth. I’d suggest it also builds trust that whoever’s made the mistake is honest enough to admit it.
This is a tough one because it means you’ve either over-promised, under-estimated or whatever it is, is out of your control. Either way, it’s late. In which case, it’s likely easier to focus on the new timetable and deal with the reasons later. But it’s tiresome if you spend your time blaming others or making up excuses.
Ever wanted to say ‘no’ but couldn’t? Sometimes saying ‘no’ can be hard but the consequences of saying ‘yes’ can make matters worse. ‘No’ with a considered point of view can even strengthen a relationship if your ‘no’ is reasonable.
I don’t know
We’re not all walking encyclopaedias – it’s ok to say, ‘I don’t know – let me go find out…’ once in a while. And isn’t it far better to admit you don’t know something than to make up something that may not be true?
Nowhere is the culture of ‘massaging the truth’ – ok, lying – more prevalent than in politics. Many could (and probably will) write books on the ‘questionably accurate’ comments made during the US presidential election. If you don’t want to wait, look no further than the New York Times fact check page.
Fear is likely at the bottom of most if it. Fear your boss will lose confidence in you. Fear your client will take their business elsewhere. Fear you might lose the election. But the irony is, that more straight-up you are as an individual, as a corporation, as an agency or as a client – the more likely you are to garner greater respect and success than if you’re economical with the truth.
So go ahead – tell it like it is. You have way more to gain – and a lot less to fear than you might think.
Stephan Argent is Founder and Principal at Listenmore Inc offering confidential advisory to marketers looking for truly independent insight and advice they can’t find anywhere else. Read more like this on our blog Marketing Unscrewed / follow me @StephanArgent
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